What Is a True Self and Why Align With It?

What is this “True Self” I keep going on about, and why should you do the inner work required to align with it? And why the hell aren’t you aligned with it already if it’s the “true” part of you?




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Want to Fix Yourself and Others? Try This Instead

If you want to help someone, don’t spout spiritual platitudes at them like “just be in the now”. Show up and listen with genuine empathy and unconditional love. Share your own vulnerabilities so they know they’re not alone. We cannot “fix” or heal people.




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Nothing Grows Without Shit (Your Life is a Garden: Part 1)

Those shitty experiences that you’ve shoved under a tarp because they look ugly, awkward or just make you feel uncomfortable? They are the raw ingredient for your greatest experiences yet to come. Without them, it would not even be possible for you to have greater experiences.




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Do You Call Yourself Lazy for Resting? (A Missive About Self Care)

I think of my body as a fun vehicle I’ve been given to experience my life with. I imagine myself as a Kia Soul, unique and quirky but practical and useful, a little slow to get up to speed but dependable once I get going. And I remember from when I had my own (actual) car that if I don’t change the oil, get it rustproofed, wash it and take loving care of it, the car begins dragging and breaking down. It gets old before its time. It can support me only as long as I support it.




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A Dream Needs a Plan and a Deadline

After a lifetime of studying the psyche + a couple decades of daily meditation + a ton of other inner work, I’ve become amazing at helping other people live their highest potential. And yet I’m still just a baby learning to crawl when it comes to getting the basic, everyday, unsexy stuff done that will move my own business, and my bigger goals and dreams, forward.




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6 Components of an Effective Goal Mastery System (Part 4 of 5)

For a house to stand strong, it must have a solid foundation. So, if success is important to you, you’re going to have to roll up your sleeves and do the boring, unsexy and time-consuming job of building that foundation to support your vision.

If it feels overwhelming (and it will), remember, you don’t have to do all these things at once. You can pick one element and try it out. Then pick another. Each of these components has the power to help you make positive shifts in your reality.




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4 Exercises to Set the Right Goals and Love Your Life (Part 2 of 5)

we don’t just want a system for achieving our goals—we also need a system for choosing the right goals, which are aligned with who we ARE and what we really want (as opposed to what we think we want—because we think it will make us happy).

I have listed the following exercises in the order I feel they should be done to get the best result (because I did them in this order and got a great result). The first exercise feeds into the second and so on, so please don’t skip any.




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